The Online Dating Dr

Don't be cheesy or unoriginal!

OK, so I've called this section 'opening lines' but for the most part opening lines can often come over as cheesy and/ or unoriginal.

Avoid Mail Bombing

Another cheap tactic that you want to avoid is the copy and paste method. When I talk to some of the women that I've dated online, many of them have the same criticisms regarding most men and one of them is looking like they have a generic (and usually long) e-mail all written out which is sent en-mass to shit loads of people. Women are so much more perceptive than men and can often see this a mile away! So don't waste your or there time employing this lazy approach.

So what works?

What works really well is going and reading their profile and then coming up with an opener that's clearly custom to them. This shows that not only have you taken the time to read about them but you have some originality too.

Example (Hot older women opener + profile related)

What I really like about this example is that we can kill two birds with one stone. This is an example of a humorous email that I'd send to either hot older women or women that simply stated in their profile that their target age range is older than I am.

So I'm using that information plus telling them a bit of a story about myself which demonstrates lots of attractive traits and has a funny punch line. Now this is specific to me, copying it would just be stupid as you need to just understand the concepts of what's contained here.

If everyone copy and pasted this, then a lot of you are going to look pretty stupid as lots of girls will get the same message. So try and relate it to something that's actually happened in your life, something that has aged you either physically of mentally (if you have to go down the same route as me).








It's amazing that with a really solid opening mail, you can go straight from small talk and chit chat to a direct meet. Most of the time you'll exchange a few messages at first before you meet up but the moral of the story is this, create an amazing first impression and not only will you stand out from the crowd but you'll have made a fairly lasting impression that will make life much easier for you with regards to getting a phone number, chatting and obviously, going out.